Passion – Posture – Profile
are 3 elements that describe a person and provide some predictive information about future behaviour. In my 3rd post in this series I want to talk about your or my profile. Every person has a profile and it’s much more than the silhouette of your face or your user profile on facebook. But both form part of the picture that is you.
Most people (I do) have a visual memory. When my wife asks me, “do you remember Jane, you know, she has that fluffy cat ..”, my mind flicks through people’s faces that I associate with Jane. Adding the additional information about the fluffy cat triggers the right image and I can imagine quite vividly Jane and her fluffy cat. Now, by doing that I have an important part of Jane’s profile: I know what she looks like. You have an important part of my profile: You know how I remember things and that I may need 2 hints to get it right.
You provide other visual clues to others. The way you move when you walk or run. Your gestures that you use when talking or directing. Your facial expressions, do you laugh with your colleagues heartily or just giggle. Some people roll eyes or through their hands in the air. It all adds to forming a picture.
In communications we listen to people, the tone of the voice, the timbre, the selection of words, how they build their sentences, the flow of information, the trustworthiness of what they say (I compare what I hear with what I know and my experiences), and the speed and volume. Most of we do unconsciously. I know a person, who has a squeaky voice and that irritates me every time we meet. However what he says is sound and practical.
There are other noises you can make that add to your profile as others perceive it. How do you listen? Do you provide encouragement or acknowledgement such as “okay”, “ah, yes”, “really?”, “mhm”.
The most important aspect of your profile is what you actually do and how you do it. There is the expression “walk your talk.” or “be the change you want to see”. The latter one originating from Ghandi. It is essential for your trustworthiness that you do what you say you do. If you are annoyed that meetings don’t start on time and asked everybody to make sure they are, you must be too, and you shouldn’t be last.
You tell your kids to clean up their room and keep it tidy. Then you have to make sure, they have the space, the knowledge, the time, and the tools to do so. And don’t forget your bedroom can’t be messy, either. The same applies at work, remove the obstacles and provide what is required to get the job done. If you are the one doing it, do it and don’t delay. If you can’t for what ever reason, say so early and don’t wait til the due time has arrived.
This behaviour is what makes you a reliable, knowledgeable, trustworthy and intelligent person.
What do you do when you don’t know a foreign word (like epistemic), a new process (“we are not saving word documents any more, we are now using a publishing process”), a changed legislation (like the new copyright act in New Zealand), or hear something on the radio that’s happening elsewhere but sounds like a big deal? You can simply ignore it, who cares. You can use this with some else and see if he knows. You can look it up and learn what it’s all about.
That’s what I call inner drive and it’s very much part of your profile. It tells how much you want to move by yourself and how much you are being moved.
Coming back to your Facebook profile or Twitter, or Google, or your work user profile. This information is usually put together by providing some facts like age, sex, status, interests, memberships, and knowledge artefacts. In my opinion this adds context to your profile but overall it’s secondary. Yes, it is important that you have a driven all sorts of trucks if you are a heavy truck driver. How reliable are you when driving? Do you know all the technical details of your truck and maneuver it through tricky areas? I’ve seen amazing truck drivers and some that were quite careless. The same goes builders, managers, IT specialist, and so on. Your knowledge and experience is one thing, what you do and how you use it is much more significant.
Passion: Love what you do, do what you love
Posture: accept things you cannot change, challenge what need changing, and wisdom to know the difference
Profile: walk your talk